Are you a lover or a fighter?

 

Anyone that knows me will know that I’m both; I’m very protective of my clients and will fiercely defend them if I need to…..but sometimes I urge them to take a step back and avoid the fight.

 

It’s not a sign of weakness to give up the fight when:

• You’ve messed up;
• You’re wrong (hard to admit sometimes!);
• You are unnecessarily stressed out by it;
• You are unlikely to convince the other person to see your point of view;
• You are wasting your time, energy and resources when you could be focusing on something more worthwhile;
• It is costing you more to fight than it would to reach a settlement on commercial terms.

 

It is a sign of strength of character to see through the red mist and focus on finding a solution to a dispute.

 

It can be empowering to ‘drop the rope’ in your tug of war and walk away.